Love and respect should go hand in hand. He's suppose to love you and you are suppose to respect him. However, too many women aren't finding love because they haven't found self-respect. This is one of the keys to getting a man to respect your feelings and you as a person so that he can fall in love with you and get past the stafe of lust or infatuation.
Treat Yourself With Respect, Love & Kindness
Do not make choices that are disrespectful to the life you want and who you want to be. You can't get love without giving love and knowing how to love, therefore, the only way to get respect from someone is to respect yourself.
Be Yourself
When you can be true to yourself and not try to act the way you think a man wants you to act, you will find a man who loves you for who you are. If you try to be something you're not, others can sense it. They feel the lack of security you have in yourself and then they can't really trust you, love you or respect you because they don't know you.
Dont Sleep With Him To Soon
Men Don't fall in love easily, They fall in lust. If you sleep with a man before he has had a chance to fall in love with you, chances are he may just move on because he got what he came for. Take some time. Get to know him and see if he and you are looking for the same things. You don't want to feel attached to someone who ultimately never wants the same things in life as you.
Don't Send The Wrong Message
If you want a relationship, Don't behave in ways that say you are just looking for sex.
Do Not Tolerate Disrespect
Don't tolerate disrespect from him, firends or your family. Be loving to yourself and when you are disrespected by others kindly remove yourself from that situation or tell that person that their behavior is hurtful and disrespectful and you are going to leave if it continues, and definitely follow through. If a man see's that his friends or yours or even your family disrespect you, then he will feel he can too.
Never Lie
A man can not respect you if he can not trust you. Honesty and integrity are keys to respect.
Understand The Power Of Your Words
Don't underestimate what you say. According to Dr. Emerson Eggerichs who wrote the book "Love & Respect" men feel contempt when they are criticized and they feel disrespected. Therefore, they can not respect you in return. Women's criticisms can crush men. Our words have a lot of power and we must be careful with them.
Don't Chase Him
Today it is OK to ask a man out, but remember, ultimately men will come after who they want. They don't need you to chase them. If a man is showing a lack of interest and you are chasing him down, he will not respect you. If he isn't doing any pursuing, he is not interested in you. He may like you enough to sleep with you on occasion but he is not going to respect or love you. If he isn't interested, try not to take it personally and move on to a man that is.
Don't Use Sex As A Tool
Once you get to the part of the relationship where you are physically intimate, never use sex to get what you want or to get back at him, and never bargain with sex. He will be confused and definitely will not respect you and your feelings.
Listen To Him
Try to understand his point of view instead of just jumping in with yours and try to listen without thinking about what you want to say next. Allow him to feel heard and respected so that he can do the same for you.
Ciao,
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com
Showing posts with label Life Coaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life Coaching. Show all posts
Monday, August 2, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
Vision
You must have a Vision first in order to have the life you want. If you can not envision yourself healthy, envision yourself thin or happy or whatever it is you want, then you can not obtain. So I am here to say today: Create your vision!
Once you have that vision, document it. That is what I do everyday as a life coach, as a trainer or as a diet planner. I help people find their vision and I help people bring their vision to fruition.
I have specials going on all the time. Combine personal training with pilates or one of these with life coaching and really see your results. Now is the time to call, don't delay. Start moving toward your vision today with my help.
Ciao,
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com/
Once you have that vision, document it. That is what I do everyday as a life coach, as a trainer or as a diet planner. I help people find their vision and I help people bring their vision to fruition.
I have specials going on all the time. Combine personal training with pilates or one of these with life coaching and really see your results. Now is the time to call, don't delay. Start moving toward your vision today with my help.
Ciao,
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com/
Thursday, February 4, 2010
You Can Do What You Want To Do!
You Can Do What You Want To Do. You can reach the goals you set for yourself if you just make an effort to work towards your goals on a daily basis. You can't let fear stop you from moving forward.
Fear can be a subtle thing sometimes that creeps in and causes paralysis. Something as small as a thought like "I can't do that because I don't have any experience." or "I can't approach that person and speak to them about what I want to do, they will think I'm crazy, that I don't know enough." etc. etc. These thoughts can often keep people from moving forward because the waters are uncharted for them. However, if you can't put your toe in unchartered waters, how will you ever experience something new to help you move forward. No you can't let fear stop you. If you are afraid that you can't do something, educate yourself, find someone to help. That is what a Life Coach can do for you.
We help people move past the fear, see new possibilities and teach many life possibilites and lessons that you may have not learned in your family system growing up.
You know, I have friends who have never been able to manage their money.
They are constantly in debt and can't get out. Are they stupid? No. Some are college educated. Do they not have decent jobs? No. They just were never taught by anyone how to handle money. They came from families that spent a lot and they never learned about saving, etc. A Life Coach, can help with things like this. We can also help people learn to make better choices and how to make decisions. There is so much to be gained from spending some time talking to someone who has specialized in learning an expansive view on the world and is able to give it back to others.
Don't get held up, or held down or held back. Move forward with a Life Coach. And if you are not reaching your health & weight goals call a trainer and get someone to help you stay motivated and on track so that you can finally reach your goals this year!!
Jimmy Carter said "You can do what you want to do, sometimes you can do it even better than you thought you could."
Fear can be a subtle thing sometimes that creeps in and causes paralysis. Something as small as a thought like "I can't do that because I don't have any experience." or "I can't approach that person and speak to them about what I want to do, they will think I'm crazy, that I don't know enough." etc. etc. These thoughts can often keep people from moving forward because the waters are uncharted for them. However, if you can't put your toe in unchartered waters, how will you ever experience something new to help you move forward. No you can't let fear stop you. If you are afraid that you can't do something, educate yourself, find someone to help. That is what a Life Coach can do for you.
We help people move past the fear, see new possibilities and teach many life possibilites and lessons that you may have not learned in your family system growing up.
You know, I have friends who have never been able to manage their money.
They are constantly in debt and can't get out. Are they stupid? No. Some are college educated. Do they not have decent jobs? No. They just were never taught by anyone how to handle money. They came from families that spent a lot and they never learned about saving, etc. A Life Coach, can help with things like this. We can also help people learn to make better choices and how to make decisions. There is so much to be gained from spending some time talking to someone who has specialized in learning an expansive view on the world and is able to give it back to others.Don't get held up, or held down or held back. Move forward with a Life Coach. And if you are not reaching your health & weight goals call a trainer and get someone to help you stay motivated and on track so that you can finally reach your goals this year!!
Jimmy Carter said "You can do what you want to do, sometimes you can do it even better than you thought you could."
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Health and Wellness, Empowerment Speech
Hello everyone!
I think one of the best things that have come about in the past few years is that people really seem to be getting more in tune with the need to find balance in life and to live healthy so we can "live long and prosper" Truly Spock never knew the power of his words!
It really is true that as people we can learn to find a wonderful balance and to understand balance so that when those in-evadable days come along where we slip out of balance, we have tools and a desire to find our way back. My perspective on balance and learning to balance has completely changed my life, and I believe will keep me healthier and happier longer. It saddens me to see older people in failing health and having no real understanding of spirituality or faith, only religion. I wish for all of us in the next few generations to surpass so many of these health issues by taking care of our bodies and minds now.
Join me in changing ourselves and thereby changing the world. Get tuned in to your health physically, mentally, and spiritually and make a real change.
My speech this weekend is for young women who need help and encouragement. I hope to help their generation learn these key life giving practices now!
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Life coaching
Hello everyone!
Now that the world is so large, the internet has allowed us to, in some ways, make it so small. If you are not local to Huntington Beach and the surrounding area, but you are still interested in Life coaching sessions or diet help. Contact me and I can set up sessions on the phone and through e-mail and you can pay through pay pal. Just give me a call!!
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Saturday, March 21, 2009
We can end this recession, we have the power
Hi Everyone, or for you Italians- Ciao Tutti,
In today's tough times we have to learn a new way of thinking, perceiving and doing. I think that is why life coaches are so much more in demand. The world and the economy are telling us that it is time to change. I know many people have heard or believe "people don't change." I'm hear to say people do change and should embrace change.
When we get stuck in old ways of doing things and we can not see any other alternative, then we have no choices when the old ways become obsolete. We must grow and evolve as a society. The past proves that. Just look at how much change we have gone through over the centuries. Well, it doesn't stop just because we have become a high functioning, wealthy society. We must continue to change. There is always room to move. Now it is imperative.
As a Life Coach, I teach people how to broaden their perspectives, how to find other choices and how to be pro-active actors instead of reactionary reactors in their lives. We don't need to re-act to what the news or other people say or think. We can choose to have our own thoughts and solutions to life's problems. You can start by taking advantage of many good prices and specials out there. If you still have a decent income or still have your job, help the economy and don't feel guilty about choosing to buy some really good prices products and services. If you are not doing so well financially, then see if you can get what you need in trade. Barter with someone. There are so many possibilities. They exist, even if we don't see them.
If you need help seeing the positives and possibilities in today's world, call me and lets have a consultation. http://www.bellabodyandmind.com/
Have a beautiful day.
In much abundance
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Monday, February 9, 2009
Huntington Beach Chamber Speech
Hi Everyone,
Just a quick reminder that I will be giving a short (2 minute) but memorable speech at the Chamber Breakfast on Friday morning FEB 13th. If you are at all interested in hearing about my business and philosophy and hearing about other great small businesses in HB, then come on down. You can buy a ticket at the door and check out the chamber and what they do. It's a great opportunity if you are starting a business yourself.
Ciao,
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com
Just a quick reminder that I will be giving a short (2 minute) but memorable speech at the Chamber Breakfast on Friday morning FEB 13th. If you are at all interested in hearing about my business and philosophy and hearing about other great small businesses in HB, then come on down. You can buy a ticket at the door and check out the chamber and what they do. It's a great opportunity if you are starting a business yourself.
Ciao,
Laura Fortino
Bella Body & Mind of Huntington Beach
http://www.bellabodyandmind.com
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